Well, I'm still alive! Hopefully the majority of those that read this are glad to hear that news. Sorry I haven't written in so long. I have been really busy and really shouldn't have time to be writing tonight but for two nights in a row I am unable to sleep. Maybe I'll get back into the swing of things though.
It seems like all of my closest friends have been going through one hardship or another recently. Admittedly most of them have to do with relationships with the opposite sex. I was in the middle of a conversation last night with a dear friend of mine about her recent let down and the question came to my mind, "is ignorance really bliss?" I mean just about all of us have experienced some sort of situation in our lives where we feel like, at least for some short period of time, we were able to taste what the happiness of heaven might be like. We have also probably felt the sting of having that little taste of heaven ripped away from us, never to return again. Maybe this was a relationship, a friendship, or an outpouring of the spirit, but we have all felt the highs of life and the lows in some facet of our life thus far. If you haven't... get away from the computer and go live a life.
So, back to the ignorance issue. Since it was a broken heart at the hand of a boy that brought this question into my mind I'm going to focus on that. Anyone that has had a dating experience that seemed so perfect, you clicked with the significant other in every way possible, you felt like there was nothing negative about the experience, and, in the best of cases, he/she brings out a side of you that is so good it surprises even you to find it inside yourself. I've had a couple such experiences and, to me it seems like that's the closest thing to heaven I've had the pleasure to experience thus far in life. However, in the aftermath of the collapse of such relationships the pain is so immense you wonder if you'll ever want to clear the emotional rubble and date again because you just can't imagine finding such happiness with anyone else. At least that's how I've been following surprise breakups. This is where the ignorance question comes in.
Those people that have never had such an experience as outlined above are, essentially in a state of ignorance. This ignorance may or may not be of their own choosing but, nonetheless they are ignorant of the happiness and joy that such an experience can bring into their life and are left hoping that one day they might taste of the fruits thereof. At the same time there are those of us who HAVE tasted the positive fruits of a healthy, happy relationship but are no longer involved in one. For us the single life is bitter sweet. Sure its nice to have 'your own life back' but on the other hand hanging out with the fellas just doesn't have the same appeal that it once had (with each healthy relationship that appeal seems to diminish) and you may find yourself wishing, albeit on the inside only, for something more to brighten your life. Basically what I'm getting at is this: Those who are ignorant don't have first hand experience of what they are living without and as such can't fully understand just how good it really is. Those who have tasted, to some extent, the fruits (both good and bad) of the better parts of life are keenly aware of what they are living without and, in many cases, mourn its absence. This is applicable to nearly everything not only in life but in the eternal scheme of things also. So while I don't regret having the life experiences that I have acquired I still wonder if maybe ignorance in some things is the way to go.
One has to wonder what other things we as humans are living in ignorance of. For those things I guess all we can do is hope that someday we can taste of those fruits.
Cara Mengobati Wasir Pada Ibu Hamil
8 years ago
6 comments:
Kendall, I have pondered this myself. I remember the bliss of ignorance, but I also think that I can say that I have delved higher into the highs and lower into the lows than most singles, if you remember my past you know what I mean. And while the lows have been bad and still are, you could say that I have a hope for high that will come again. If I knew I would never have a great relationship again then I would be deeply temped to choose ignorance and it's accompanying bliss. But my hopes of an other great relationship, and with more hope that it is lasting, that I will swallow and endure the low points after relationship over and over. Or maybe I am just a gluten for punishment...
I'd forgotten how much I enjoy the way you write. Very insightful and a rather hard question to answer, may I add.
I think I may be one of the ones who are ignorant.... But I would agree that you have learned more and have experienced more and can appreciate it more because of that. It was good to talk to you for a few minutes yesterday!:)
Yeah, they were legite brownies...since it was a date I figured that'd be the best way to go, if we're ever to have another one. Interesting question to try to answer. I think sometimes ignorance is only bliss because we don't really know what we're missing.
I don't know, it really depends on how deep you want to live your life. On the one hand ignorance is bliss and you can enjoy a simple care free life for simplicities sake. On the other hand once you experience that deep pain of someone you love tearing your heart out, you can appreciate the joy of finding the "right" one that much more. So while simple people don't experience that pain, they also don't appreciate it as much when they find something good..or so I think :)
fact: I was not referring to myself as the cause for this wretched weather. My post rather simply stated that life has gone amiss because it should not be snowing at the end of march.
p.s. you should call me to hang out or we can go on a journey to fill my car tire with air. I went to drive to work today and noticed it is looking sad :(
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